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T he words that you speak out loud and the words that you repeat mentally have a tremendous impact on your outlook in life. Guard your words. Be sure that you’re only on conversations which affirm your dreams, goals, and aspirations. When you are in conversations with your friends, never put yourself down. Also, never talk about your goals in a negative way. They should not be of with frustration or worry. Instead keep the conversations upbeat and enthusiastic. You should always project a positive vision of your future to others. Talk to yourself in a positively manner. Speak out loud about things that you want to be, do and have. When you talk about where you are going you build up an expectation in your mind. Control that direction and your level of expectation by keeping your words positive. 

I t's been said that the biggest enemy of 'great' is 'good'. The biggest enemy most of us face is 'ourselves'. The nagging voice says: be like him, you're not worthy; do what he does, follow where others are going. When you're trying to be like someone else, the best you can ever be is "second best" . Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you. We all do it or have done it at some point in our lives; we compare ourselves to others and gauge where we are based on what we observe them to be doing. When you stop comparing yourself to others, you tend to produce more results in your life, you are able to improve yourself, and get a better vision for your life . The easiest thing to be in the world is YOU . The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position. Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be cont...

                                                              L ife is too precious to waste living it without a plan or goal. It is too short not living it to the fullest, as they say. Okay, okay. Say, you have a goal, a dream, a wish you want to fulfill. You’d ask, is that enough? The answer would be yes, as long as you have the assertiveness to reach it. Hey, it wouldn’t be called a goal unless you have no plans of achieving it, right? Otherwise, having a goal without the will to make it into reality is not enough. Another problem regarding this matter is that people do have a goal but just don’t have what it takes to achieve it, or so they thought. Again, they become blinded by the negativity of their minds . Money, socio-economic status, race, age, gender –these are just a few factors that hinder individuals to think that...

Life is queer with it's twist and turns. As everyone of us learn sometimes, don't give up though the pace seems slow, you may succeed with another blow. Success is failure turned inside out, the silver tints of the clouds of doubt, and you never can tell how close you are.  The single most important difference between champions, achievers and average people is their ability to handle rejection and failure. You can't travel the road to success without a puncture. Mistakes are often the best teachers. Whenever you fall pick something up.  The mistake-riddled life is much richer, more interesting and more stimulating than the life that has never risked or taken a stand on anything. "Don't fear failure too much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of life contains 3 descriptions: could have, might have, and should have (Robert Schuller) ". Look at what you have left, never look at what you lost.  It may be near when it seems so fa...

The truth is that most dangerous place to be is in the middle of the road. Make rigid decisions, no should I or shouldn't I. A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways. Remain indecisive and you will never grow! Every accomplishment great or small, starts with a decision. To move to where you are, you must decide where you would rather be. 

Character is the aggregate sum total of one's distinctive moral and mental qualities. Every man has in himself a continent of undiscovered character, however it is not a natural endowment we are born with.  It is something that each individual forms of itself, with a continuous process in every thought, every action, every deed, every feeling which contributes to the education  faculty of our attitudes and habits.  Character is just like cloud of smoke, it can never be concealed or hidden because it will find its way out. Character is a magnet that attracts the right people to you. It is the real foundation of all worth while success.  "Thoughts leads on purposes, purposes go forth in action, action from habits, habits decides character, and character defines our destiny" (Tryon Edwards). Would your reputation recognize your character if they met in the dark? Would the boy you were be proud of the man you are?

Be an original individual and not a photocopy. However, you may try to change your personality, but you can't. A congolese proverb says, " Wood may remain ten years in the water, but it will never become a crocodile". Beware! Many spend their entire lives trying to change the way they were made. "To be nobody but yourself" says E.E. Cummings " but in a world which is doing its best day and night, to make everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting." The greatest tragedy than can strike an individual is to fail to know himself.  Syndney Harris said "Ninety percent of the world's woe comes from people not knowing themselves, their abilities, their frailties and their real virtues". Whatever you are, be a good one.  You are number one; everyone in the world is your number two. Wart Disney said, "the more you are like yourself, the less you are like anyone els...